I remembered a day in my Social Studies class, during Senior year, when the teacher depicted three separate diagrams. We were on the subject of relationships and self esteem. We were taught how a healthy relationship looks like and how a bad relationship looks like. We also learned key elements on knowing whether the relationship is good, or not so good.
The first diagram looked like this: /\
The teacher explained that THIS diagram showed an unhealthy relationship. The diagram "told a story" about a relationship that had two persons with low self esteem. Therefore, they leaned onto one another for support. Yet there is no support, sort of speak. In the end, the relationship fell apart. The two persons weren't able to keep themselves stable long enough.
The second diagram looked like this: |\
THIS diagram explained a not-so-bad relationship. But the relationship still isn't a healthy one. One partner has decent self esteem while the other partner has low self esteem. The partner with higher self esteem has to support the low self esteem partner or else she/he would fall down. With the low self esteem partner depending on the higher self esteem partner for support, the higher self esteem partner will become stressed and soon... things fall apart.
The last diagram looked like this: |=|
THIS diagram showed a healthy relationship. The two persons have either high self esteem or not-to-shabby self esteem. Either way, they aren't leaning against each other for support. What is keeping them supported are those two lines. Those lines represent positivity or good vibes that keep the couple connected and well-balanced. They don't NEED each other for support, however, they do need each other. Get it?
A key element we learned was a phrase that could mean two completely different things if switched around. The first phrase said, "I need you because I love you." When flipped, it said, "I love you because I need you."
Which one sounds like the relationship is a perfect match? The first phrase? Or the second phrase? OR... do they mean the same thing?
They definitely don't mean the same thing. Phrase (1) means: "I love you more than life itself. And because of that, I need you." Phrase (2) means: " 'I love you' because, without your support, I'm nothing."
Phrase (1) claims a good relationship status. Phrase (2) claims a leaning-on-each-other relationship status, a.k.a: a bad relationship status.
Based on the diagrams, nowadays, Mason and I can be either "/\" or "|\" with me being the one leaning on Mason. Lately, he has been telling me how he is wiped out. And with me depressed and sometimes ranting AT him for little things, he breaks down even more. How does that make me feel? Terrible. I beat myself up until I cry. I can't handle hurting other people's feelings. Some days, I can't live with myself.
Hence, tomorrow evening, I'll be starting birth control. In a month, I'll be seeing results. Meanwhile, Mason and I have to hang in there a bit longer.
Today was nonchalant. Got angry on IMVU before watching Longplays on YouTube.
I think most of the people, who play IMVU, are brainless. I know I can be simple-minded at times, but the people I interact with can get downright DUMB.
Take my 21 year old friend, for example. She's friend's with this 41 year old man who can hardly speak correct English. Aaaaall the ladies swoon over him, no matter how old they are. He is a flirtatious, divorced pervert with 3 REAL LIFE kids!! Well... him and my 21 year old friend, Jess, were getting "comfy" with one another. Soon, Jess informed me that Rick, the 41 year old, wanted to meet her in real life and possibly get together. He had a huge crush on her and she started to believe she liked him back. I was about to tell her that she was nuts, yet instead, I told her the story about my teacher friend, Daniel. Stunned, she said that MAYBE she should stay friends with Rick. I thought that was a smart idea. So, they stayed as friends.
UNTIL Rick "supposedly" played Jess off. Jess found out Rick was flirting NOT ONLY with another woman, but also with 18 year old girls in very naughty chat rooms.
Such a turn on, right ladies? ...
Jess was so upset, she had to invite me and let off some steam. She couldn't understand!! I understood perfectly FINE. He's a sick bastard. End of story.
After a few minutes of venting, Jess said that Rick was online and she was going to go tell him off. I rooted her on, she disappeared, and I waited a couple days later for some answers.
Turns out, they're still friends...
I'm serious. That's how stupid these people are.
I AAALMOST wanted to invite Jess to a private chat and give her the ol' lecture of the day! Make her feel bad for her choices!! However, I think I'll let her figure out on her own what she did wrong. Usually hurts a lot more.
Aren't I wicked? Yea... Sometimes I can be. Welcome to reality.
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